To be genuine and kind is like a broad spectrum remedy for the pain that afflicts the heart . . . Every one of us is in a position to be genuine and kind. To offer this kindness to others, we first have to learn to be kind toward ourselves. Then we can approach others. We first have to learn to be kind toward ourselves. Then, we can approach others and extend that same kindness to them . . . If there’s any way we can really save someone, being genuine and kind is probably the only way. You’re not going to save people by pushing them toward a goal you have in mind for them.